A family’s value system is most crucial. It is the moulding block
for their characters and perspective to life.
Below are basic values every family should have in the order of
their importance:
- Family Altar: “Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it” PROVERBS 22:6 (KJV).
Ensure that your family has devotion twice
daily. Gather together morning and night, to study the word of God and pray.
And see to it that each person has his or her personal quiet time (that is
devotion), daily. Encourage praying in tongues and prophesying. Contrary to the
popular opinions, they are not for show, neither are they strictly for private
use, but for the edification of one and all (1 Corinthians 14:1-5, 14, 18,
39-40).
Charity begins at home. Pupils are first
taught in class and made to practice In class, and afterwards are given
assignments on the same things, to strengthen them.
- Knowledge: “Wisdom is the principal thing; therefore get wisdom: and with all thy getting get understanding” PROVERBS 4:7 (KJV). Knowledge is multi-faceted. You need spiritual, intellectual, social and financial education. With knowledge comes insight and foresight. To have correct understanding is to know what knowledge precedes (or is more important than) the other. Spiritual wisdom is of value unto all things, both in this world, and in that which is to come (1 TIMOTHY 4:8).
- Mutual Understanding: “By this shall all men know that ye are my disciples, if ye have love one to the other” JOHN 13:35(KJV). You do not have love one for the other if you cannot put the interest of the others in view. Apologize if you have hurt anyone’s feelings. You are not sorry, if you are patronizing. Don’t patronize your maid, children or spouse. Let your love and consideration of others be without hypocrisy. Don’t be satisfied with the result of things only because you are having your way, [whether by hook or crook].
When children are crying about a thing or
when your wife is complaining about something. Their approach may be childish,
insensitive or manipulative; now don’t endorse pettiness or selfishness,
however, whatsoever they are complaining about is real to them. What you
require is an appropriate message (that is explanation) that will draw them out
of that level of thinking perpetually with time. But in the meanwhile, you can
make an alternative arrangement that does not glorify foolishness. And never
hesitate to let each member of the family know how much you love him or her.
even if there has been bad blood. It has to stop somewhere.
- Discipline:”Foolishness is bound in the heart of a child; but the rod of correction shall drive it far from him” PROVERBS 22:15 (KJV).
After putting the above in place, as they are
more important, then you can pull out your stick, or enforce corrections here
and there.
“He that spareth his rod hateth his son: but
he that loveth him chasteneth him betimes” PROVERBS 13:24 (KJV).
- Means: “The rich man’s wealth is his strong city: the destruction of the poor is their poverty” PROVERBS 10:15 (KJV).
With the principles you have learnt from this write-up, you should have known by this time what assets you want to own, because
money is important in raising a family. However, it is the least important of
the family-, and character-moulding blocks.
